Wehn it's supposed to be over, but it's not!!!

**angeladc** · 07-08-2008, 02:26 PM

Hello y'all!!!I really have a dilema and it's my husband/baby daddy.We have been seperated for over 6 months now and both of us are in a relationship.Neither one of us have the heart to go and file for divorce because of some feelings that are still left but we know we gone too far to try and give it another try.I can't be with him alone because i know what will happen.I care for my boyfriend but I'm still too weak for my husband.I honestly don't know what to make of how I feel right now.Has anybody on here been through this type of ordeal and if so how did it finally end?

**cc5k** · 07-09-2008, 01:09 AM

Never been through it myself, but here's my 2 cents...

I do know a few people that jeapordized their futures by harping on their pasts, and they ended up regretting it. It sounds like deep down you know that you and your husband are never going to make it work, despite the soft spots you'll always have for each other.

I'm curious if you think you have a chance of making it with your current boyfriend. And if so, what does he want and how does he feel about it? (I almost think we can all guess the answer to that one.)

It would be sad to damage a promising relationship (your possible future) because of not letting go of your past.

...just my opinion.

**TUCKER** · 07-09-2008, 01:29 AM

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both of us are in a relationship.

Perhaps it was a little too soon to start a real relationship with someone else. You're going to short change the stand in because you aint cleaned up the house yet.

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Neither one of us have the heart to go and file for divorce because of some feelings that are still left but we know we gone too far to try and give it another try.

Theres something called a mutual decree. Unless one of you is trying to get alimony, child support, or some other stipend, you can walk away free and clear. No lawyer, no court, no outside interference. You should look into that and gon take care of yo business. Y'all gon have tax return issues, medical bills, child care, and a whole bunch of other nasty bullcrap to contend with if you don't "CRAP OR GET OFF THE POT!"

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I can't be with him alone because i know what will happen.

NOTHING!, if you handlin yo business and really are through with each other. I'm sure he likes being the OTHER man more than you like being the OTHER woman. QUIT PLAYIN WITH EACH OTHER. I'll bet cha its more fun now aint it? Work it out with ol boy, or do him and yourself a favor and let him go.

**jaypeesmith** · 07-09-2008, 08:35 AM

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Originally Posted by TUCKER

Perhaps it was a little too soon to start a real relationship with someone else. You're going to short change the stand in because you aint cleaned up the house yet.

This may be it right here.

**angeladc** · 07-09-2008, 11:14 AM

I appreciate the comments and i'm going to look into that mutual decree(hope i spelled it right)

**Phoenix** · 08-20-2008, 11:45 PM

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Originally Posted by angeladc

Hello y'all!!!I really have a dilema and it's my husband/baby daddy.We have been seperated for over 6 months now and both of us are in a relationship.Neither one of us have the heart to go and file for divorce because of some feelings that are still left but we know we gone too far to try and give it another try.I can't be with him alone because i know what will happen.I care for my boyfriend but I'm still too weak for my husband.I honestly don't know what to make of how I feel right now.Has anybody on here been through this type of ordeal and if so how did it finally end?

I too am separated. My wife left me on New Year's Eve 2007. She was involved with another man. Unlike you, I don't have another relationship. I still love my wife because I am supposed to love my wife but she has done everything possible to burn the bridge. In fact, she burned it and then dropped a nuclear bomb on it so it now seems hopeless. I want a girlfriend. Any sistas out there looking for a good man, holla* at a brother. I'm in my forties.

*I am not fond of these kinds of words but sometimes on the Internet I lapse into Negrospeak.

**cc5k** · 08-21-2008, 01:43 AM

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*I am not fond of these kinds of words but sometimes on the Internet I lapse into Negrospeak.

LOL... only you Phoenix would put a footnote in your own post. Negrospeak... that's funny, but I still wish I had the "tsk tsk" smiley right now.

**TUCKER** · 08-21-2008, 04:10 AM

Is this J P's dating service and small engine repair shop? Well I don't need a date yet, but I do need my lawn mower repaired.

**BISHOP** · 08-21-2008, 10:27 AM

TUCKER, I got 2 Lawnboys...both have oil leaks. One needs a motor gasket. The other a gasket that even the repair shop doesn't know what it is.. I just went and bought a Toro. LOL Most of the time just change the OIL, SPARKPLUG and AIR FILTER and it will run okay.

**TUCKER** · 08-21-2008, 12:32 PM

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TUCKER, I got 2 Lawnboys...both have oil leaks. One needs a motor gasket. The other a gasket that even the repair shop doesn't know what it is.. I just went and bought a Toro. LOL Most of the time just change the OIL, SPARKPLUG and AIR FILTER and it will run okay.

Gaddamn and to think I was just funning. First apology to the thread starter but, Bishman I just did all that and when it still wouldn't keep running I took it in. Found out there was water in my tank from gas in a can that had been outside in the rain. Sure hated to pour it out as high as that shyt is, but I had to. Took the mower to the shop and now the left front wheel is locked. Its a self propelled CRAFTSMAN.

Oh yeah, if its over, you gotta do like Bishman did, cut the LAWNBOY and go buy a TORO!