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LOL... Frank is a guy who's honest and straight forward... tells it like it is. And he's really good looking, which always helps his delivery.  |
....sounds a lot like you!
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He's not? I find that hard to believe. Maybe he's not admitting/showing he's offended? If someone asked you for a pre-nup, what would you think about his level of confidence in the future of the marriage?
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I dont know....the type of person he is, I know his eye is not set on money....I hope I didnt offend him. He knows I think the world of him...I guess when you look at it, in all actuality its not him, moreso me. again, i trust him, but there is always that "if" factor
**disclaimer: I use "me" and "I" in place of actual person.**
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I understand and believe that, but that's not enough to take the plunge for life imo. There has to be UNQUESTIONABLE trust. And other than not "banking" on there being a divorce, both have to be absolutely CERTAIN that there will NEVER be a divorce.
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Soo. what you're saying is, no throwing caution to the wind and just going for it? Got it....
But, CC, how can one (or both) be absolutely certain there will never be a divorce? If you walk in and find your wife taking
"one to the mouth and one to the padussy," are you going to say "she's cheating with two dudes in my house, but I'm absolutely certain that there wont be a divorce here.
***Disclaimer:CC5k's wife was not caught in said situation***
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If marriage is just viewed as the natural next step in the dating cycle (like it is for a lot of people), then the possibility of divorce will be on the table (it's essentially like any other "break up" but with paperwork to go with it). If marriage is viewed as a life commitment that you will make your #1 priority in life, then divorce and pre-nups are not even on the table.
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But again, isnt there always the posibility of divorce on the table? If your spouse changes for the worse after you're married, even if she was the model girlfriend/fiance before the vows, are you 100% sure you're going to stay with her and be "happily married" as you put it? What if she just blatantly starts disrespecting you? Having dudes calling your house, sending naked pictures via email to various men, engaging in un-wife like activities, are you still going to stay married?
***Disclaimer: CC5k's wife has not been engaging in un-wife like activities, to the best of my knowledge***