[KHARMA]

Originally Posted by Phoenix

Regrettably, I will continue to point these things out when appropriate and when they come to my attention as happened yesterday.

I COULD BE WRONG, BUT IT SEEMS AS THOUGH YOU SEEK OUT THESE "INSTANCES"

If you want it to end, then tell the moderator to ban me. It's just that simple.

JP HAS A MORE THAN COMPETENT STATE OF MIND TO BE ABLE TO KNOW WHEN HE NEEDS TO BAN SOMEONE, NOT FOR ME TO SAY...

I absolutely will not stop because it's as central as anything that confronts Black people, the topic of this list.

IF THAT WERE THE CASE, AND IT REALLY WAS AS CENTRAL, THE TOPIC WOULD HAVE BEEN DRIVEN INTO THE GROUND BY OTHER MEMBERS WAY BEFORE YOU JOINED....

As I have said, I have been banned for EVERY group I have ever been apart of. It's not going to hurt my feeling. In fact, it will give me more time.

I'M SURE YOU WERE NOT BANNED IN ORDER TO HAVE YOUR FEELINGS HURT, AND AS CC5K POINTED OUT, IT TAKES A LOT TO BE BANNED FROM HERE, BUT WHEN IT GETS TO THE POINT WHERE DAY IN AND DAY OUT, YOU'RE POSTING ABOUT THE "WOES IN THE DAY OF THE LIFE OF PHOENIX AND THE BLACK WOMAN," IT GETS KIND'A TIRED...

It is not simply a matter of preference for most men.

YOU SPEAK FOR MOST MEN?

Many guys start out in life with high hopes of finding that special sista to be his life long-mate

I THINK MOST GUYS START OUT WITH HIGH HOPES OF FINDING THAT SPECIAL WOMAN...PERIOD

One reason I know it's not simply preference because when many Black men go to Latin America they pursue women of African descent.

IF THAT WERE THE CASE, WHY GO TO LATIN AMERICA...WHY NOT GO TO THE SOURCE ITSELF.....

As far as generalities, I have already addressed that. These trends and behaviors are shockingly common place. There are exceptions and you certainly are one of them or at least you came to be one of them after your personal experiences.

THIS IS TRUE, BUT I ALSO GOT OVER THE FACT THAT NO RELATIONSHIP IS GUARANTEED TO WORK, NO MATTER WHO I'M WITH...I'VE BEEN THROUGH BAD RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN, BUT THAT DIDNT LEAD ME TO MAKE THE GENERALIZATION THAT ALL MEN ARE NO GOOD AND FROM THIS POINT ON, I'M GOING TO POINT OUT THAT FACT TO ANYONE WHO WILL LISTEN...

I guess, until I hear women express these concerns publicly and push for change, I will continue to be a thorn in the sides of Black people.

I DOUBT YOU'LL SEE THAT IN THIS LIFETIME...I'M NOT ARGUING THE FACT THAT SOME BLACK WOMEN HAVE GIVEN THEMSELVES BAD NAMES, BUT THATS THAT INDIVIDUAL WOMAN'S FAULT...SHE IS NO REFLECTION OF ME, NOR ME OF HER..

All that's ever expressed is it's "not all Black women" and how dare you generalize

IS THAT NOT A VALID STATEMENT?

because it would have to be recognized that Black women are at least partly at fault for the problems we have (which is not possible because everyone knows it's all the Black man's fault.)

THIS IS TRUE, BUT JUST LIKE THE FACT THAT THE STEREOTYPE OF "ALL BLACK MEN ARE LAZY, CHEATING, BABY-MAKING, NO CHILD SUPPORT PAYING DEAD BEATS" DOESNT APPLY TO ALL BLACK MEN, ALL BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT THE CAUSE OF YOUR FRUSTRATIONS...

The fact that five or ten or 15 percent of the sistas fall outside of these patterns in no way blunts my concerns or dilutes my arguments. I know at least this, enough women fall within these patterns to have made my life miserable, not to mention lonely.

YOU ALLOWED SOMEONE ELSE TO MAKE MISERABLE AND LONELY SOMETHING THAT YOU HAVE CONTROL OVER? IF YOUR LIFE WASNT ALREADY FULFILLED, THEN MAYBE IT WAS THE WRONG TIME TO BE LOOKING FOR A MATE...

Loneliness that was only abated when meeting the many beautiful and approachable women of Panama and Colombia.

IF IT WERE TRULY ABATED BY THE WIFE YOU HAVE NOW, BLACK WOMEN AND WHAT THEY DID TO YOU WOULDNT EVEN BE AN ISSUE...

If it were just me you all could dismiss me as some nut. But it's not.

I HAVE A LOT OF MALE FRIENDS AND COME IN CONTACT WITH MEN FROM ALL OVER THE WORLD, FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE, YES I'VE HEARD A COUPLE OF THEM SAY THE THINGS YOU'VE SAID, BUT THEY SAY IT AND GET OVER IT, BUT NEVER HAVE I HEARD ANY OF THEM SAY BLACK WOMEN CONTRIBUTED TO THEM BEING MISERABLE AND LONELY, OR THAT BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL ARE NO GOOD.

I'm telling you, when I go to a mall and see almost a dozen black men with white women there is a problem somewhere.

WHAT ABOUT WHEN YOU GO SOMEWHERE AND SEE A DOZEN WOMEN WITH OTHER WOMEN...OR MEN WITH MEN..THAT DOESNT SPELL PROBLEM?

Perhaps there is an ignore feature that can be added to the list so you won't ever have to read anything I say again

...ITS NOT THAT SERIOUS, I HAVE NOTHING AGAINST YOU PERSONALLY...IT COMES WITH BEING A MEMBER OF A MESSAGE BOARD...YOU WONT AGREE WITH EVERYTHING SOMEONE SAYS...